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What to do when what's supposed to feel like a sexual milestone feels more like a raw deal, including sorting through feelings of upset about a partner's sexual history.

Do "all guys" really always want more sexually than you really want or feel ready to do yourself?  No. But even if they did, that doesn't mean it'll always be right for you -- or them! -- to engage in sex you don't feel ready for yet or don't really want yourself.

If and when we want to have sex in such a way where we only think of our own wants and needs, we can always have that easily with masturbation. But once more than one person is involved in sex, more than one person needs to be seen, heard and considered.

How do you tell a partner that you're not comfortable with something they want to do, whether you have sexual abuse in your history or not?  You tell them you're not comfortable with something they want to do.

Do you have to worry that simply by virtue of being a male person with a sexuality, you'll abuse someone?  No. Being a certain sex, having a certain gender or having a sexuality does not mean a person has any kind of innate predilection to abuse.

How can you become a virgin again?  Can you become a virgin again? Why keep using that term at all, and keep trying to make sense out of a freamework we know often just isn't sensible?

Are you supposed to moan when having sex? If so, is there a technique to what you are saying or do you just do it?

What does it mean to be good at sex? Or, better still, what things tend to make it most likely for people to have sexual lives, experiences and relationships they really enjoy?

A new study using data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health finds no association between abortion and either depression or low self-esteem in teens within a year of terminating a pregnancy or five years later. 

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A new single by former Disney "Cheetah Girl" Kiely Williams, member of girl group 3LW, is essentially an ode to a night of unconscious, unprotected sex.