lesbians

What you're discovering is one of the many ways in which virginity as a concept doesn't make sense. If you two pursue sexual pleasure together, however you choose to do it, you're having sex.

The lesbian community faces unique challenges when accessing health care, from widespread provider misconception about STI risks for women who partner with women to doctors who tailor their medical advice to stereotypes they have of lesbians' lives and needs.

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