Heather Corinna's blog
The best way to be an ally and a support to anyone often starts with questions like "How can I support you?" or "What do you want and need from me in this?" Then you listen to the answers and respond accordingly.
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Form-based ethics teach the Christian to ask the question “Am I allowed to do this?” Content-based ethics teach the Christian to ask “Am I truly loving the person or persons with whom I am doing this, including myself?”
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If the sex that you're having is really about you and your partner-- if it's an expression of who you both are, what your relationship is, and how you feel about each other and if it's what you both want and feel ready for, it's special.
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One part of readiness for sexual partnership -- and it's a biggie -- is being able to hear, accept and respect another person's limits and boundaries, not just using someone else to get your rocks off.
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On the whole, methods of birth control are safe. Both pregnancy and birth control carry risks, the level of which depend on a range of personal health factors and considerations.
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People are too often not as concerned as they should be about a partner's readiness for sex, often assuming males are "always ready." This pervasive double standard hurts both men and women.
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If all we do with a partner is what feels good to us and what we want, and deny that partner everything which could feel good to them, we're not really having partnered sex: we're using that partner as a masturbation aid, and that's not cool.
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No one method is 100% effective in perfect or typical use over time. In typical use, condoms are around 85% effective, or present a 15% risk of pregnancy. But in perfect use, they're about 98% effective, or present about a 2% risk of pregnancy.
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A baby isn't a bargaining chip. Having a child with someone doesn't increase your chances of having that person stick around. Having a baby with a guy means doesn't mean you'll cement him to you. Think twice...and again.
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Someone telling you they don't want to be intimate and that they don't like it when you do sexual activities for them is usually telling you quite clearly that they just are not feeling it with you when it comes to sex.
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